The records may show a poor statistics of couples not having experienced this kind of marital conflict. It happens in most relationships. And those whose relationships were downright spared from this catastrophe or those who were shaken a little but weren’t totally moved by it could be counted not just blessed but phenomenal!
There are so many sides that should be dealt with when it comes to this issue. I don’t really intend to delve into all its facets though. I don’t even know why I have to write about this.
in my own viewpoint, infidelity is always a lose-lose situation. All parties, even the unconcerned ones, get their share of defeat. It has a far-reaching effect that goes on even long after the act. It’s hard to just throw all negative reminiscence into the atmosphere for, chances are, you’ll be able to breathe them again.
Is it really hard to forgive and forget? Yes.
Can trust find its way back? I hope so.
Should there still be a place for love? Definitely.
To err is human, to forgive is divine.
No matter how much pain it has caused you, second chances should never be deprived to those people who have hurt you. The act may be deliberate… yeah, it is deliberate! It doesn’t take a genius to be aware that one’s irresponsible actions will probably wreck havoc into someone else’s life!…, but find the heart to consider loving again. Maybe not as much as you used to. but in the right time, if BOTH of you are willing to work it out, everything will just fall into place. And that wonderful relationship you’ve once had will even bloom into something more worth taking care of.
Two days ago, I had a job interview in a school here in Bahrain. I applied for the job with some hesitations, because I was ambivalent about leaving the kids at home. I am now completely used to personally taking care of them. But I prayed and left everything to God. I told myself to surrender all my plans to the Lord and let His will happen. And when I got a call from that particular school, I took it as a sign that He is allowing me to leave the kids for a purpose.
But after talking to the HR manager, I was sort of disappointed. My only purpose of my desire to go back to teaching was to be free from paying the tuition fees once my kids go to formal schooling. But I was told that I am only entitled to 30% discount for the tuition fees of my kids. I was disheartened after hearing that. I was asked to go back for a teaching demo, but I do not plan to go back anymore.
Maybe God has other plans for us. I know He is preparing our family for some other positive things. So for now, I have no other plans but to follow where the waves of life will take us.
Your Relationship is Still Building Strength
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You’re relationship is fairly strong, but you’re still working on making things solid.Make sure you’re both treating each other with kindness and respect, even when things aren’t going well. Your relationship isn’t in danger, but it could be if a crisis hits. You need more strength to get through the bad times. Remember what attracted you to each other, and try to bring some of that fire back. It’s not too late!
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This is just so true!!!!!
My hubby and I are exerting conscious efforts in making our marriage work. I would not deny that we had a negative start. Everything just did not fall into place. We have done a lot of stupid things that we regret till now. We were bot aware of how badly we treated each other then.
At the moment, our relationship is still too remote from perfection. Marriage requires a lot of patience, courage and dedication from both parties. It is not something that you can expect to grow on its own without nurturing.
I failed to update this blog for quite a while. Well, for a couple of reasons…
First, I did not find any motivation to blog. In fact, I was discussing with a blogger friend the possibility of quitting. I was actually dismayed by some enexpected turn of events. But a new door of opportunities has been opened for me. I was not expecting for it to happen anymore. But it still did, and I am really grateful! This made me decide to continue blogging…
I was also busy with my application in different schools. Yes, if God permits, I would be working again. So what will happen to the kids? Maybe my MIL would go here with us to to look after the kids. Hubby and I also decided to enroll the kids in a pre-school just in case I would be able to land on a teaching position. Well, the only consideration was, of course, the salary. I would just accept job offers if the price is right (as they say so). I would not trade the time I spend with my kids with just a meager amount. Anyway, they are the reasons why I want to work… so we can provide them a comfortable life.
Lastly, my younger son got two stitches under his lower lip (right side). He fell from a pew inside the church. It was sad. We immediately rushed him to the nearest hospital. The doctors told us that the wound would be needing 2 stitches to heal faster. Hubby was ambivalent at first. He tried to ask for other options, but they told us that it was the best thing to do for the fast healing of the wound. So I had to closely monitor him because he kept on touching his wound. I am so afraid that his wound would be infected.
So there, those were the reasons why this blog was set aside for a while…
I hope I will find the time to keep this blog updated.
Ciao!
A father may turn his back on his child; brothers and sisters may become inveterate enemies; husbands may desert their wives and wives their husbands. But a mother’s love endures through all; in good repute, in bad repute, in the face of the world’s condemnation, a mother still loves on, and still hopes that her child may turn from his evil ways, and repent; still she remembers the infant smiles that once filled her bosom with rapture, the merry laugh, the joyful shout of his childhood, the opening promise of his youth; and she can never be brought to think him all unworthy.
- Washington Irving
I do not want to miss the chance of greeting all moms all over the world. Happy Mother’s Day to all of us!
I understand how hard it is to be a mother. Motherhood does not simply mean having kids. I have seen a lot of mothers who have shown so much passion and concern to their children, I salute these women who have made their worlds revolve around their family and their kids, and who have so much love to give.
This world is undoubtedly a better place because of all of you…
Cheers to all moms out there!
I was staring at my monitor for so long, but no thoughts come to mind. I am completely clueless and have no idea about what to write today. Maybe I am not just in the mood to share anything at this very moment.
I am not really a writer, but can I use the term writer’s block?
Modesty aside, many fellow bloggers praise me for the things I write and share in my blog. But personally I still do not consider myself a good writer. Hmmm, maybe compared to my friends’ writing abilities. Yeah, I think I am nothing compared to them.
But what sets me apart from them and from all the bloggers is my way of sharing my experiences and lessons I gained in the course of my 27 years here in the planet. I can say that I am more experienced and mature than other people at my age. And because of that, I have a lot to impart.
I hope that the readers of my blogs can learn a lesson or two from my writings. Or, at least, the few minutes they spared reading my posts are not a waste of their precious time.
money… lots of them… char!
security
love
good time
closure
peace of mind
kissess
reaching out
understanding
wisdom
sleep!
vacation
day-off
good health
sound mind
trust
communication
hearty laugh
fulfillment
strong relationships
true friendships
homemaking skills
self-control
anger and inis and disappointment management skills
strong faith
